Entering the realm of child trauma psychotherapy in my early twenties, I found myself back in the neighborhood I grew up in, on the south side of Chicago. Working as a Black therapist with predominantly Black clients, I felt a deep connection to the community and a shared understanding of the prevalent issues of abuse, neglect, and trauma.
Focused on narrative therapy, I aimed to unravel the daily impacts of trauma and foster healing through relationships and empathy. Despite the challenges, the rewarding moments fueled my passion for the work. However, as one of the few Black therapists amidst a majority of white colleagues, I faced microaggressions and systemic racism in the systems meant to support our children and families.
Despite my efforts to create change, I often found myself caught in a cycle of re-traumatization within the flawed systems. This struggle ultimately led to burnout and a need for a new environment. Transitioning to a role in an independent school system as an early childhood counselor offered me a fresh perspective and a break from the trauma-heavy environment I had been immersed in.
A Shift in Perspective
In navigating a predominantly white institution as a Black woman, I faced various challenges and biases. However, I was able to leverage my experiences to effect change and advocate for inclusivity and equality within the system.
Just as I was settling into this new role, the onset of the COVID-19 pandemic disrupted our lives and routines. As educators, we swiftly adapted to remote teaching and then back to in-person instruction, balancing safety concerns with the responsibility of caring for our students amidst a tumultuous time.
Amidst the pandemic, the heightened racial tensions and injustices further added to the stress and fear, especially for Black families. I found myself addressing these issues with students, teachers, and families, using my voice to advocate for change and empowerment.
Despite the challenges and personal fears, I showed up each day, willing to support and care for others while navigating my own trauma and stress. The commitment to creating positive change, no matter how small, kept me motivated and focused on the bigger picture.
Nurturing Ourselves and Others
Reflecting on my journey, I now understand the importance of self-care and acknowledging one’s identity in the process of caring for others. Prioritizing our well-being and understanding our lived experiences allows us to be more present and effective in supporting those around us.
By embracing my identity as a Black woman and integrating self-care practices into my routine, I have found a renewed sense of purpose and resilience in my work as a school counselor. Building meaningful connections and creating a safe space for vulnerability has enabled me to navigate the challenges and rewards of supporting young minds through their formative years.
